Okay, here’s my take on the topic, written in a casual, blog-post style, as requested:
Alright, so, “cunt is as cunt does.” Sounds pretty straightforward, right? Like, you are what you do. But I wanted to really get it, you know? Not just nod my head and pretend I understood. So, I decided to put it to the test. Make it a little experiment.
The Setup
First, I had to figure out what I even considered “cunt” behavior. Not in a name-calling way, but more like, what actions consistently rub me the wrong way? I made a quick list:
- Cutting people off in conversations. You know, just steamrolling over someone else’s words.
- Leaving a mess for others to clean up. Classic selfish move.
- Being deliberately unhelpful. Like, watching someone struggle when you could easily lend a hand.
- Talking shit behind people’s backs. If can say, say in their face.
The Experiment: Phase 1 (Being a “Cunt”)
This was the… uncomfortable part. I committed to, for a short period, doing those things. Not all the time, just enough to observe the effects. I chose specific situations, like at our family dinner, I cut my sister off mid-sentence. I left my lunch dishes in the work kitchen sink, even though I knew it annoyed my team leader. I listened my neighbor was talking behind my back, and I didn’t say anything.
The Experiment: Phase 2 (Not Being a “Cunt”)
Okay, time to switch gears. I focused on being the opposite of those “cunt” behaviors. It sound simple, but it took more effort. For example:
- I started actively listening when people talked. Like, really listening, making eye contact, asking follow-up questions.
- I cleaned up not just my own messes, but sometimes other people’s * down the counter after someone else made coffee.
- I went out of my way to be helpful. Offered to carry groceries for my elderly neighbor.
- I talk to my neighbour in the face.
What Happened (and What I Learned)
The “cunt” phase felt… gross. Even though it was a short-lived, controlled experiment, it left a bad taste in my mouth. I made my sister angry. And my team leader looks strange when he found me.
The “non-cunt” phase? Surprisingly rewarding. People responded way better to me. Conversations flowed more smoothly. People smiled more. And, honestly, I felt better about myself. It felt good to put positive energy out there.
So, “cunt is as cunt does”? Yeah, I think there’s truth to that. It’s not about labels, it’s about actions. And my little experiment showed me that those actions, good or bad, have a real impact – on others, and on myself.