Okay, so I decided to tackle this whole “sexier outfits” thing head-on this week. Felt like I was slipping into a rut with my usual t-shirts and comfy pants, you know? Figured, maybe it’s time to spice things up, see what actually works for me. Goal: Find looks that feel confident, maybe a little flirty, but without feeling like a costume.
The Inspiration Hunt & Shopping
First step, I hit the local shops. Big mistake number one: Went in without a clear plan. Just wandered around looking at anything sparkly, silky, or shiny. Ended up grabbing a bunch of stuff purely based on the mannequins, which let’s be real, look nothing like humans. Snagged a few bodycon dresses, a couple of those bandage-style tops, some faux leather leggings, and a sequined camisole thing that screamed “trash bag covered in glitter” in the changing room light. Also, feeling bold, I picked out a set of matching black lace underwear and bra – not my usual cotton territory!
The Grand (and Slightly Awkward) Fitting Session
Got home, cleared the bedroom floor, and dove in. Tried the first bodycon dress. Whew. Looked like a sausage casing after Thanksgiving dinner. Seriously. Every bump and lump was on display. Tried sucking in, standing sideways, holding my breath… nope. Just felt really self-conscious. Took that one off fast.
Next up, the faux leather leggings. Okay, getting them on felt like wrestling a plastic bag filled with angry cats. Once they were on, they looked… shiny? They made this weird swishing noise when I walked. Felt like I was wearing plastic wrap. Also, incredibly impractical. How do people sit down in these without worrying they’ll split? Pass.
The bandage top was… interesting. Way more structured than I expected, like armor. Actually felt secure! But the neckline plunged lower than I usually go. Kept feeling like I needed to hike it up constantly. Felt: slightly edgy, definitely more form-fitting than my usual, but also like I might expose myself if I bent over too far.
The sequined cami? Oh boy. Under the store lights it looked glamorous. In my bedroom lighting? Just garish. Made a lot of noise just moving my arms. Felt itchy too. Straight into the “maybe donate” pile.
Finally, the lace underwear set. Okay, gotta be honest. The lace felt scratchy. And the whole thing… well, let’s just say it wasn’t exactly comfortable for lounging. It looked pretty in a mirror selfie sort of way, but I definitely questioned its all-day wearability. Kept adjusting it.
What Actually Felt Sexy (For Me!)
After the minor disasters, I decided to ditch the “try-hard” stuff and see what I already owned or try simpler combos.
- The Silky Blouse Combo: Found an old dark green silky blouse at the back of the closet. It’s drapey, not tight. Paired it with my best dark jeans – the ones that actually fit well and make my butt look decent. Left the top two buttons undone. Result: Felt polished, comfortable, and somehow more confident. Not overtly sexy, but like a grown-up version of myself.
- The High-Waisted Skirt & Simple Top: Pulled out a black high-waisted pencil skirt (not super tight, more classic fit) and a fitted but simple black turtleneck. Added sheer black tights (small ladder near the knee, classic). Result: Felt put-together, slightly retro, and strong. The confidence came from feeling sleek.
- The “Accidental Sexy” Sweater: Okay, this was weird. Have this slightly oversized cashmere sweater. Collarbones always peek out when I wear it, especially if I pull it off one shoulder just a tiny bit. Paired it with jeans again. Result: Felt cozy AF, but also noticed the collarbone thing somehow felt more appealing than any plunging neckline I’d tried. Go figure. Comfort was key.
The Big Takeaway
My version of sexy is WAY more about confidence and subtlety than tight or revealing. Trying on those “sexy” outfits just made me feel awkward and exposed. But finding fits that flatter my actual shape, playing with textures like silk or a soft drape, and showing a tiny bit of skin in a way I control (like collarbones!) felt so much better. It wasn’t about trying to look like the mannequin or fit some trend. It was about what made me feel good standing and walking around my own room. The underwear? Jury’s still out. Might save it for very specific occasions… or maybe just return it. That lace is itchy.
Bottom line: Don’t force it. Comfort and confidence win over sparkly plastic leggings any day. At least for this blogger! Don’t try at home unless you’re ready to wrestle plastic pants.